Just rewind back to when you were a child and you used to play with Barbie and Ken dolls. If you were a boy, you probably played with small action figures like He-Man and GI Joe. You put so much imagination into those toys. After all, you needed to bring them to life. Each toy had a story line, plot, and character arc that would put the best writers in Hollywood to shame. Many of us can’t succeed in the law of attraction and love because we’ve lost our sense of imagination. We are no longer pretending to be picture perfect action figure dolls. Now, we are demented characters who are twisted and torn by the plight of our own imaginations.

I believe that the Joker said it best. “Why so serious? Let us carve a smile into that face.” Of course, we don’t want to be as demented and as crazy as the joker. But sadly, many of us are almost there. Alright, so maybe were not murderers or psychopaths, but our behaviors can get really crazy when we don’t properly address our issues. We cover up our unhappiness, our misery, and disappointment with cracked war paint. The paint serves as a reminder of all the battles we’ve fought, lost, and won in past relationships. We can’t move forward and begin to understand the law of attraction and love, until we really begin to understand the pain that we are covering up inside. So many of us wrap a homemade bandage around the wound, so we can keep going. But that’s the wrong answer.

We cannot enter a new relationship when we are badly wounded. In our hearts we want to attract love, but the pain will not allow us to. We may very well manifest men who are handsome and are as perfect as a Ken plastic doll, but may massacre our self-worth and confidence like Leather Face with a chain saw. We might be attracted to women who look like Barbie, but the attraction can turn fatal when the feeling is not reciprocated. Our character plots and story lines can take a turn for the worse, when we are not aligned with who we really are inside. When we approach our lovers and relationships like they’re toys, our imaginations will get the best of us. We will start to tell ourselves that we are not worthy, that they are going to leave us, that they don’t love us. We begin to write our own stories, and the plots changes where we begin to push our partners away.

What’s the solution to all of this? Take control of your imagination. Understand that everything in your life is a reflection of who you are inside. The law of attraction and love is all about becoming a creator. You need to become the creator of your life. So if you truly want to find love, you have to look inside of yourself. As children, we played with dolls. We brought them to life with our own story lines and imaginations. Only, the dolls were just a mere reflection of who we were inside. We were discovering our selves through our imaginations, and we were happy doing so. So hit rewind and think of your childhood, before the wars and relationship battles, before all the wounds and pain, before all of the feelings of uncertainty and unworthiness, and tap into an imagination that brought you so much bliss and happiness. This is the secret to the law of attraction and love.

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When we go to the movie theater, our eyes are focused on the screen. We become so engrossed by the storyline, the sound and special effects, that we fail to see the projector that is tucked away in the back. If we didn’t know any better, we would think that the movie is actually coming from the screen. But we understand that a movie is just a bunch of tiny pictures “moving” to create the illusion of something that is in motion. Many people have a difficult time becoming spiritual because they are focused more on an illusion as opposed to the real thing.

Enlightenment is about getting real. It is about finding the heaven that is inside of you. It is about reconnecting with the source. What does all this mean? It means that you are the projector. You control the pictures, sound, and special effects of your own movie, your life. And you determine how you want your movie to be seen. Your life is filled with tiny little pictures. Your experiences are nothing more than snapshots of thoughts and intentions that create images. These images move with emotion and action. But we have been programmed to focus on the screen. We are trained to focus on results, to be attached to people, things, and events.

I have many people who ask me about love and relationships. I simply tell them that love is the power of God. Of course, they look at me like I am absolutely crazy. Many of these people don’t really understand love or God. These are people who are looking to fall in love with an illusion, as opposed to the real thing. They want to sit and watch the screen. We see it everyday. They have partners that come and go. They fall in love with success; they fall in love with fame, power, and money. These people are always looking to fall in love with something, because they need that feeling of sustenance and fulfillment in order to be complete.

But this kind of thinking is just an illusion. It is the kind of love that tricks you into believing that other people are generating these feelings inside of you. We have been trained to project our feelings onto others. This programing causes suffering because we are on an endless cycle of love and loss. If we are constantly loving and suffering, then the love is not real. It is just an illusion, a projection of our own thoughts and feelings.

Love is the power of God because it leads you into the heaven that is inside of you. Imagine the feeling of being in love, without being attached to someone. Or having a feeling of bliss without having to accomplish anything. Self-love is powerful; for once you learn to generate all of these feelings inside of you. You will desire nothing. This is the kind of love that has sustenance. This is the kind of love that will make you feel whole and complete. This is true love. This is the love of God!

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I am a sporadic sleeper, so I have many nights when I am up at 3am. There is really nothing to do at this hour aside from flipping through 321 television channels, and finding nothing good to watch. Then, I try to surf the Internet, but I slowly lose interest. Finally, I try and go back to sleep. But the images from the television and Internet slowly began to pop into my mind.

I remember all the blogs that I skimmed over. Blogs with generic and search engine friendly titles like, “7 Ways to Avoid Negative People.” Or Three Good Tips on How to Deal with Difficult People.” Then, the movie, “The Fly” pops into my mind. Yes, it was the only movie that managed to hold my attention at 3.10am.

It is a remake of a 1958s classic, where some crazy scientist conducts an experiment that goes terribly wrong. The title of the movie is pretty much self-explanatory; the scientist turns into a hybrid man/fly. I know it sounds utterly ridiculous, but the movie has great special effects, and the acting is incredibly convincing. Then, I had a brilliant idea. What if I could merge the two?

I’m not someone who likes to toot my own horn. However, I can say that I have had a great deal of experience dealing with toxic, negative people. The blanket answer that I searched on the Internet is just to avoid these people. I believe that this is a very unrealistic solution, because everyone has positive and negative traits. We all have times when we are self-absorbed, manipulative, condescending, narcissistic, needy, and selfish. However, these kinds of behaviors become problematic, when people start looking for others to feed on.

These people are toxic. They are like the mad scientist in the movie, “The Fly.” Like a bad experiment, something in their lives had gone terribly wrong. Perhaps they were victims of abuse? Or some other traumatic event that turned them into a hybrid monster? They are needy, controlling, and manipulative because they don’t know how to generate the feelings of love, joy, and fulfillment in their own lives.

So they prey on the weaknesses of others. Like a fly, they gravitate toward decaying matter, because they want to make you “decay in matter.” They want you to feel bad about yourself. They want you to feel unworthy; they want you to feel guilty, and unloved. Remember, these people cannot generate their own positive emotions. So very much like a hybrid man fly, they have to vomit on you, break you down, and suck all of your goodness out.

These are the people that you hate to be around. However, they can be difficult to avoid especially if they are a parent, spouse, or troubled child. Do not suppress your emotions. If these people make you angry, then get angry. If these people make you sad, then be sad. If they make you feel guilty, then feel guilty. If you don’t allow these emotions to flow, you’re going to cringe every time these people come around you. And you are going to continue to give your power away, by giving them the satisfaction they long for.

Don’t give anyone permission to hurt you. And don’t suppress your emotions. The best way to deal with toxic, negative people is to treat them like they are characters in a movie. Watch them and be entertained, become fascinated by the fact that they can generate these kinds of emotions inside of you. Enjoy the special effects, the drama, and the compelling storyline. Then walk away understanding that the emotions that they made you feel, stem from their own issues, not yours. This is the spiritual concept known as detachment. Being detached is not about being uncaring. It is about being strong and impervious, so no one’s venom will be able to melt you down.

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Be aware! There are people who are committing the most heinous spiritual crimes. They look like regular people. They could very well be your ex-boyfriend, current wife, or psycho girlfriend that you just can’t get rid of. Some people may refer to them as divas, or ladies men, pimps, or players. Or others who are truly intuitive may say that they suffer from severe psychological issues.

I believe that these people are a couple of therapeutic couch sessions away from being full-blown serial killers. Besides, they have much of the same mind-set; they just aren’t crazy enough to take their sick fantasies all the way. So maybe they don’t wet the bed, or torture small cats or dogs. They are spiritually torturing themselves and everyone they come into contact with, because they operate with their weaknesses as opposed to their strengths.

Everything is great in the beginning. Much like a serial killer they will work to lure you in with their charm. They know that you are going to have your defenses up, so they put on an act and make you believe that they are not going to hurt you. Watch out! They are looking to build your trust, and then they are going to attack. These are the people who emotionally exploit you. They intentionally go out of their way to hurt you.

It is safe to say that these people have serious issues. For them, there is a miss match between certain thoughts and emotions, and actions and reactions are not paired up correctly. This produces weird awkward behavior that goes beyond laughing at funerals. These are the people who love drama. They love to make you jealous or upset, because they are looking for the opportunity to have power over you. Their domination does not only have to be physical, it can be emotional, financial, and even spiritual.

So why do these people even exist? I can answer that question with two words, bad programing. Our souls carry programs from successive lifespans. Overtime, we get run-down and start to suffer from normal wear and tear. Traumatic events like abuse, neglect and abandonment create glitches in our system. So we are no longer able to operate effectively. Without treatment, our thoughts are not properly matched with the right emotion. So we mistake things like pain for love.

It is human instinct to look for a partner who we are compatible with. So we instinctively look for partners who have the same bad programing or glitches as we do. Only, for a relationship to work, there has to be a positive and negative spark. If the partner we seek is domineering, we must inherently agree to be submissive. This is the only way the relationship will work.

So what does all this mean? It means that your bad programing will cause you to attract others with bad programing. It means that you are building your relationships based on your weaknesses and not your strengths. In these kinds of relationships, both couples will degrade in character. They will degrade in such a way, where one will become the abuser and the other the victim. The abuser and the victim will have this sick attraction to pain and suffering, because that is the only thing that generates the spark needed for the relationship to survive. This process will continue until there is a powerful climax, where one or both parties end up dead. They can be dead emotionally, spiritually, or physically.

If you are wondering why you keep going back to someone who you know is abusive? It is because you have yet to master your weaknesses. If you find that you are constantly attracted to people who hurt you, mistreat you, or don’t respect you. You can solve these problems by changing your coding. You can reprogram your life, fix your glitches and have positive and loving relationships. All you have to do is change yourself from the inside out.

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I just want to give you a short quiz on what you think love is. A, Do you think that love is about reciprocity? B, Do you feel that love is about openness, honesty, and sharing? C, Do you feel that love is about calling someone ten to twenty times a day, monitoring their Facebook page like it is a stock market message board, and conducting casual drive-bys to see if they are home is love? If you answered C, then I regret to inform you that you fall into the category of being an emotional stalker.

What is an emotional stalker? It is a lot like an obsession, but goes beyond harassment and intimidation. People who are emotional stalkers suffer from a serious case of mistaken identity. Emotional stalking is actually very common and many famous people have been known to have this disorder. Pepe Le Pew spent his whole career in pursuit of a female cat, which he believed was a skunk. The cat worked hard to escape his repugnant smell, but Pepe was relentless in his pursuit.

Pepe Le Pew is not the only one. Millions of people are chasing after the wrong people. Their desperation is like a repugnant smell. It is an immediate turn-off that sends people running towards the door. However, emotional stalkers just can’t take the hint that people are just not interested. They continue to pursue them, until they get a restraining order in the mail. Emotional stalking is actually a very serious condition that stems from the malnourishment of love.

In truth, our souls need love in order to grow and heal. However, so many of us grow up in environments where love wasn’t always expressed. Even people who come from relatively healthy homes may have had to bargain for love. They may have faced situations where they were only loved if they behaved in a certain way. Conditional love is almost as bad as not loving at all. Because with conditional love, we are not fully accepting the people we care about.

Since we didn’t have love when we were younger, we grow up and have a ravenous appetite for love later in life. We want to devour people who give us just a little attention. We want to bring in the U-Haul after just one date, and we are willing to give everything up, and sacrifice ourselves, just to feel loved. Emotional stalkers don’t take no for an answer, because they can’t. To them, it is a life and death situation, where they need to seriously feed on love in order to survive.

But that’s the biggest problem with emotional stalkers. Other people can “smell” their dysfunction and they are repulsed by it. They are turned off by clinginess, by co-dependency, by desperation that is gleaming in their eyes. They are like the skunk, chasing after the cat. They are longing for people who are unavailable and looking for something that they can only find within themselves.

Emotional stalkers may have a hard time finding love and getting affection from other people. So they are going to have to find ways to generate the feeling of love within them selves. We’ve all heard the expressions that you can’t love anyone unless you love yourself. Or that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself. All of these things are true. However, there is no real love except for the love that you have for yourself.

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What’s love got to do, got to do with it. What’s love but a second hand emotion? What’s love got to do, got to do, got to do with it? Who needs a heart, when a heart can be broken? The legendary songstress Tina Turner sang it right. Love is a risky business. You can win big, or lose big. Sadly, most of us lose big because we don’t have the slightest idea as to what real love is. Love is the manifestation of God. It is the strongest magnetic force in nature. It enables us to find balance within ourselves by conjoining the feminine and masculine entities.

Many of us lose in the game of love, partly because we don’t understand that it is a muscle that needs to be flexed. We need to pump it up by engaging in as many relationships as possible. For these relationships bring us closer to finding the balance that is inside of ourselves. All relationships are about healing and growth. We subconsciously attract people in our lives to help us or guide us down a certain path. Many of us “fail” in love because we are not used to trusting in something that goes beyond our current framework of thinking. Love has become a second hand emotion. So when we fall, we fall hard.

In order for us to have harmony in relationships, we need to have harmony within ourselves. We can only do this by effectively balancing the masculine and feminine entities inside of us. Legendary creatures such as the incubus have been known to seduce sleeping females, sucking their energy and causing them to deteriorate in spirit and in health. The succubus is its female counterpart and tends to prey on males. These mythological creatures are archetypes that embody the disparities of the masculine and feminine powers. The incubus works to deteriorate the masculine entity within the female. While the succubus works to deteriorate the feminine entity within the male.

Every relationship that we have is really an attempt for us to balance the female and male aspects of self. Break ups, or broken hearts perpetuates the split or disharmony of these two forces. Subconsciously, we want to heal and bring these two forces together. So we may attract soul mates and or twin flames into our lives. Soul mates help us heal by helping us to release karma from past or current lives. Normally, they help us learn a lesson by addressing an issue or healing a soul wound. While twin flames challenge us to reconcile the feminine and masculine forces, so they can work and act as one. This is the true essence of love; this is the true manifestation of God.

So when you feel a magnetic pull toward someone, or have a powerful attraction toward the opposite sex. It is important to understand that these feelings stem from the masculine and feminine forces that are conjoining inside of you. You have to flex the emotion of love and learn not to attach these feelings onto people. For attachments cause a great deal of disappointments. Understanding the concept of real love is going to give you the ability to disappointments. Understanding the concept of real love is going to give you the ability to find the most divine relationship, the relationship that you will have with yourself.

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